Strict or Relaxed Parents?

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Task 3 – Reading into Writing:
Strict or Relaxed Parents?
At a glance
Level: ISE I
Focus: Task 3 – Reading into writing
Aims: To read information on a topic, write opinions and give advice
Objectives: To ask and answer questions on the topic; to learn
vocabulary related to the topic; to read for gist; to read for specific
information; to discuss opinions on the topic with peers; to write down an
outline of opinions and advice; to write one paragraph expressing opinions
and advice and to demonstrate understanding of topic by completing
written work for homework
Skill: Reading for gist and specific information; writing a short article
based on a reading text
Topic: Parenting styles: strict or relaxed
Language functions: Expressing opinions, giving advice and giving
reasons
Lexis: Related to aspects of parenting
Materials needed: Student worksheet
Timing: 60 minutes
Procedure
Preparation
Print one student worksheet per student.
In class
1. Explain that the lesson is preparation for Task 3 – Reading into writing
of the ISE I Reading & Writing exam. Write ‘Strict or relaxed parents:
which is better?’ on the board. Give the class three or four examples
of strict parents and relaxed parents. For example, strict parents may
make you come home at a fixed time and relaxed parents may let you
have your friends to stay a lot and let you play loud music. Ask the
class for other examples.
2. Write these questions on the board.
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‘What time did you have to be home when you were younger?’
‘Could you wear any clothes you wanted to?’
‘Did your parents make you do your homework?’
‘Were your parents strict or relaxed?’
For a stronger class, you could dictate the questions.
Tell each learner to ask four people these four questions and to write
down their answers. Get feedback from the class and write some
examples of strict and relaxed parenting on the board.
3. Teach the words and phrases:
To behave
Behaviour
To follow the rules
To punish
Punishment
Self-discipline
Write the words on the board and practise the pronunciation.
4. Tell the class they are going to read an article about strict and relaxed
parents and which kind is better. Give out the student worksheet and
tell the class to look at question 1. Give the class five minutes to read
the text and find the answer. Get class feedback. Tell the class to
re-read the text and find the answers to question 2 (True or False).
Let the class check in pairs and then get all the answers.
5. Tell the class that a local nursery school wants to prepare a short
article called ‘Ideas for Good Parents’ to give out to parents. The class
must write an article (100-130 words) giving their opinion and advice
about whether parents should be strict or relaxed, based on the article
they have read. The best article in the class will be chosen by the
nursery school to give to parents.
6. Tell the class they need to write the article in three parts:
1. Introduction (what the article is about)
2. Five ideas about what parents can try to do to be good parents and
why
3. Then a conclusion (giving their ideas about whether strict or
relaxed parents are better).
Put this template on the board.
7. Ask the class:
‘What do you think good parents should do for their children?’
Get some ideas from the class. Ask:
‘Which words do we use to give our opinions?’
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And elicit:
‘I think/I believe/ In my opinion’.
Write these phrases on the board. Get the learners to copy them
down. Ask the class which modal verbs we can use to give advice.
Elicit:
Parents should.../shouldn’t
Parents ought to...
Parents need to.../don’t need to
Write the phrases on the board. Put learners into pairs and get them
to write five ideas for good parenting on their Worksheets.
8. When they finish, elicit one opinion and write it on the board but do
not complete the sentence. For example:
‘I believe parents should give their children a rule about traffic…’
Ask: ‘Why is this good advice?’
Elicit an explanation and complete the sentence with, for example:
‘because this keeps children safe.’
Elicit another opinion and reason and make a second sentence with
‘because’.
9. Tell the class to write a two sentence introduction saying what their
article is about. Give the class five minutes to write the introduction.
10. Tell the class to look at the five ideas they have written and to start
writing the second paragraph of the article, giving two pieces of
advice. Give the class eight minutes to write. Get each pair to read
their partner’s introduction and paragraph and tell their partner to
point any areas where they could improve.
You could ask the
students to focus on spelling and grammar.
11. Tell the class that they must write the rest of the article for
homework.
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Extension activity
1. To write down and learn any other new words/ expressions in the
article they have read.
2. To complete as much of the article as possible in class time.
Further support activity
1. Put at least five ideas about strict and relaxed parenting clearly on the
board.
2. Put up one more example sentence with ‘because’.
Homework
Ask the class to complete the 100-130 word article about ‘Ideas for Good
Parents’ for homework.
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Student Worksheet
Task 3 – Reading into Writing:
Strict or Relaxed Parents?
1. Read the text below and decide if strict or relaxed parenting is
better?
Strict parents and relaxed parents are at the opposite ends of the
parenting scale.
Strict Control or Relaxed Warmth
When a parent controls his or her child’s behaviour, he or she always
decides what the child is going to do and how the child is going to do it,
without asking the child what he or she thinks or wants. A controlling
parent also makes many rules and wants his or her child to follow the
rules. If the child does not behave the way that the parent wants, then
the child may be punished. Strict parents get angry when their children
do not do what the parents want.
On the other hand, a relaxed parent does not usually make rules. The
relaxed parent does not worry if the child does not follow a rule. These
parents do not try to change the child. The relaxed parents help their
children if they have a problem
Self-Discipline - managing your own behaviour
However, both strict and relaxed parents stop children from learning selfdiscipline, in other words, how the children manage their own behaviour.
Strict parents make decisions and these help children to behave for a
short time but it does not give the child an opportunity to solve problems
or learn how to manage him or herself. Relaxed parents also have
children who do not know how to manage themselves. This is because if
the child behaves badly, the relaxed parents are never angry, so the child
does not learn that his or her behaviour is wrong.
Power and Safety
Children of strict parents learn that power is important and that the
parent has all the power. When their children become teenagers, the
teenagers often get angry about how much power their parents have and
how little they have. Relaxed parents, however, often don’t make rules
about safety, for example, not running across the road without looking to
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see if cars are coming, which sends the message that they don’t care
enough to be sure the child is safe. The child then behaves badly to try to
make their parents give rules, which show the parents care.
Strict and relaxed parents can both make problems for children
Parenting styles can influence how well children do at school and how
happy they are. Relaxed parents often have children who are happy to be
average students at school. Strict parents often have children who worry
and feel unhappy a lot of the time.
2. Now read the article again and write T if the statement is True
and F if the statement is False.
1. A controlling parent allows his or her children to make his/her own
decisions.
2. Relaxed parents try to change how their children behave.
3. Both strict and relaxed parents help children learn how to manage
their own behaviour.
4. The children of strict parents are powerful.
5. Relaxed parents don’t seem to care about whether their children are
safe
6. Relaxed parents often have children who are top of the class.
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Reading into Writing
The local nursery school wants to give information about how to be a
good parent. They have asked everyone in the class to write an article of
100-130 words. They will choose the best article to give to parents.
With a partner, decide on five points that, in your opinion, give good
advice for new parents.
Planning notes:
1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
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Write the introduction part of your article (about 20 words).
Ideas for Good Parents
Introduction
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Give your opinion and advice about being a good parent (look at your
planning notes above). Say why the advice is good.
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Conclusion (say whether you think strict or relaxed parents are better)
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Get your partner to check what you have written. Complete the article
for homework.
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Model Article
Good Ideas for Parents
I have read about strict and relaxed parents. In this article I will give my
opinion about good parents.
Parents shouldn’t try to change their children because children are happy
that their parents accept them the way they are. Parents shouldn’t give
too many rules because children need to learn how to solve problems.
Parents ought to get angry sometimes if a child is wrong because the
child needs to learn good behaviour. Parents ought to let children make
decisions because children need to learn to manage him or herself.
Parents shouldn’t be very powerful because teenagers can get angry that
they have very little power.
It is not good to be very strict or very relaxed. I think good parents are a
little strict and a little relaxed.
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Answer Key (Student Worksheet)
1. Neither is better. Both strict and relaxed parents have negative effects
on their children.
2. 1. F
2. F
3. F
4. T
5. T
6. F
Original Source:
http://www.livestrong.com/article/560034-strict-vs-permissive-parenting/